Learning to love – by Walter Michka

There wasn’t a lot of what I’d call love in my household growing up. My parents were cold, unemotional, verbally and physically abusive to me, and each other, at times. I can’t remember my father ever saying he loved me or giving me a hug. My mother told me once when...

Dating at 50 – the definitive guide..

Wedding season is well and truly upon us.. (well for the 30 somethings), but if you are currently single and would rather have a plus-one, then this article  Dating at 50, the definitive guide from High50.com is a must-read! Focusing on the growing use of online...

Being Gay: The Life Experience of Older Men

Many men’s groups, including men only organisations and clubs, tend to have a pretty solid heterosexual culture. They may not be homophobic, but I have sometimes wondered about the absence of openly gay men or couples in the men only groups and organisations I...

Intimacy Guidelines

(from Alan Heeks  book) Communication – Basic Skills. This is a short list for a vital topic!  Use ‘I’ statements: Own your  feelings, you’re entitled to them. It’s easier for the other person to hear “I feel upset” than “You’re upsetting me”. Stay in the present:...

Relationships

Intimacy Guidelines (from Alan Heeks book) Some basic good relationship guidelines, a compass to steer you through the seas and keep you away from rocks, shoals and storms. Agree groundrules and honour them.  Sexual fidelity is often the crucial one – but ensure you...