Maintaining friendships after marriage

Couples are often faced with tension when it comes to friendships outside of their relationship. Conflict can arise when one person has the need to be social and included with others and the other desires alone time and is withdrawn from social events. Understanding...

Learning to love – by Walter Michka

There wasn’t a lot of what I’d call love in my household growing up. My parents were cold, unemotional, verbally and physically abusive to me, and each other, at times. I can’t remember my father ever saying he loved me or giving me a hug. My mother told me once when...

Dating at 50 – the definitive guide..

Wedding season is well and truly upon us.. (well for the 30 somethings), but if you are currently single and would rather have a plus-one, then this article  Dating at 50, the definitive guide from High50.com is a must-read! Focusing on the growing use of online...

Being Gay: The Life Experience of Older Men

Many men’s groups, including men only organisations and clubs, tend to have a pretty solid heterosexual culture. They may not be homophobic, but I have sometimes wondered about the absence of openly gay men or couples in the men only groups and organisations I...

Intimacy Guidelines

(from Alan Heeks  book) Communication – Basic Skills. This is a short list for a vital topic!  Use ‘I’ statements: Own your  feelings, you’re entitled to them. It’s easier for the other person to hear “I feel upset” than “You’re upsetting me”. Stay in the present:...

Relationships

Intimacy Guidelines (from Alan Heeks book) Some basic good relationship guidelines, a compass to steer you through the seas and keep you away from rocks, shoals and storms. Agree groundrules and honour them.  Sexual fidelity is often the crucial one – but ensure you...